What is the first thing you fear you’ll run into when you step out of your comfort zone?
And, what is the first thing you fear will run after you when you step out of your comfort zone?
Fear is a quilt made up of many different fabrics, stitched together with threads of worry about the worst that could happen in any given situation. Always, our fearfulness has something to do with a presumed threat of our losing some aspect of our well-being like safety, protection, security, money, friends, companionship, family, status, or home . . . or the collapse of the web of love, approval, validation, and identity, that we’ve woven to support ourselves.
It’s time to determine exactly what the binding thread of your fear is. To help you clarify your fear notions into something you can work with, write down the following thought-equation as many times as you need to, then fill in the blanks:
I fear that if I make this change . . . this will happen.
Now, look at what you’ve written.
Do you know how, or when, you arrived at this space of belief?
Are the sentences you wrote above valid and realistic equations?
Fear forces us into an unnatural state of disharmony with ourselves, keeps us from expressing our true emotions, deters us from fully grasping the knowledge that our experiences have imparted, and stops us from accessing the power God has made available to us.
Sometimes what we call fear is really common sense. Maybe you shouldn’t make this or that change if it will likely bring about a certain negative result, or a result that you haven’t prepared yourself to deal with. But what about the times when we’re basing our decisions on a fear that’s simply an outmoded low-belief, left over from our younger years when we fueled our lives with other people’s notions and reasonings?
It’s time to pull the mask off your fears and expose them to the light of reason and higher belief. As you think through some of the issues in your life that concern you, identify your fear-thoughts and see if they are useful to you or not.
Mustering up just a little faith to shine on some of the situations that you’re fearful about will definitely move you forward.
Excerpt from From Trouble to High Places: Meditations for Women Who Are So Ready to Cross the Bridges that lead to Joy! Copyright 2009 Esther Davis-Thompson