Often, the Trouble we find ourselves in stems from fear-based mindsets that have been passed down through our families for generations.
Our particular approach to dealing with the details and relationships of life is as much a part of our legacy as our family stories and our grandmother’s china. As children, we all tended to pay keen attention to the affairs of adults. We came to know the fear and the faith of our close family members, very well. We were watching as our mothers, grandmothers, aunts and sisters handled the most common life-relationships—with Self, mother, children, money, significant others and friends—and we internalized what we learned, re-dressed it a little, and from it, carefully crafted our own repertoire of how-to-behave/react/act-in-this-situation theories, albeit long before we were old enough to question the validity of our perceptions and our subsequent hypotheses.
Now, as we’re thinking about the ways we have come to deal with certain of the issues that arise in our own lives, we have to ask ourselves: Were my perceptions valid? Am I currently walking out my life according to a set of principles and values that are truly mine? Or am I drawing from a well of responses that are based on the scenarios I witnessed and formed opinions about a long time ago?
Excerpt from From Trouble to High Places: Meditations for Women Who Are So Ready to Cross the Bridges that lead to Joy! Copyright 2009 Esther Davis-Thompson