One of our most important responsibilities to one another, and to ourselves, is to own and communicate our own truths. Saying what’s on our minds as purely and simply as possible, without being unduly attached to the outcome, or to the drama—taking the initiative to have a conversation, and being willing to open ourselves to hear what others need to say to us—is a precious offering that creates a table of clarity and integrity for our relationships to open and expand upon.
Some of us have become more comfortable sitting in the victim seat, than in the owner seat, of our own lives. True communication scares us because we’re afraid to make waves. What we are failing to realize is that sometimes it’s the waves that move us all forward.
If you’ve been choosing to suffer in silence rather than to communicate your true feelings to the people in your life, it’s time for you to figure out why you feel so unworthy!
Learning to value your emotions might sound a little self-centered and selfish . . . but when we keep hedging our words, swallowing our truths, and spending most of our energy trying to hold up the earth and all its wounds and misgivings with our own minds and hearts, we are doing ourselves and the people we care about a great disservice. We’re missing out on opportunities, for ourselves and others, to take steps within our purpose, and we’re postponing our mutual journeys toward our Good.
Excerpt from From Trouble to High Places: Meditations for Women Who Are So Ready to Cross the Bridges that Lead to Joy! Copyright 2009 Esther Davis-Thompson.